• Completely opposite of Silvera’s other book, I immediately feel a connection with Griffin
  • I also like the writing A LOT more than More Happy Than Not.
  • Wait, I’m confused, Theo is like 28/29, he lived 1988-2016?
  • I’m not with you Griffin, the carpet joke was good. But if was dating my ex, I would think it was a stupid joke.
  • Griffin’s voice is SO REAL.
  • OMG. The condom scene. With his dad. STOP I can’t take this embarrassment.
  • I sympathize with Griffin and his extended family shit.
  • Wait, how old is Griffin? He’s a junior? So Theo’s 2 years older than Griffin? I guess I just assumed they were the same age?
  • OOOOOH, early admission. OK.
  • Griffin’s mother asleep on the couch is me IRL.
  • Jackson is kind of a douche. OK, maybe it’s because I’m not supposed to like him, but I don’t really like him as a character right now, so well done book.
  • It took me a while to realize this book is written in second person, I’m not sure why. But I flipping love it. I read another book written in 2nd person last year and did not like it, so I’m glad I found one I did!
  • Can Theo do no wrong? Is he perfect?
  • I don’t need to say anything about the dinner with Anika and Veronika because Griffin and his observations said everything.
  • Re: Jackson is a douche. I actually kind of like him now. He’s a good person, even if he did ditch his friends.
  • Griffin has the most level headed, understanding parents. I can’t say what I would do if my child who has OCD flew half way across the country without me. They’re my favorite parents in YA, I’ve decided.
  • OK, so that was unexpected. Like really. I thought Griffin and Jackson’s relationship might come to be romantic, but I expected a relationship; not sex right off the bat.
  • Oh, a switch to first person. I like the deliberate, creative style change.
  • HOLY SHIT what is going on? Re:
    • Theo and Griffin kissing in June
    • Griffin and Wade having sex 5 times
    • Griffin being a shitty friend
    • Theo being a shitty ex
    • Theo being a shitty boyfriend
  • I like the ending, I really do. I like how everything becomes OK, even if it isn’t entirely OK. How Wade and Griffin and Jackson are all still at various stages of grieving.
  • 8/10—This was such an amazing read I was a little hesitant to read it because I was a bit neutral-negative on Adam Silvera’s other book, but I’m completely sold on him as an author now and I can’t wait for his next release. He’s an amazing writer, especially to pull off a book largely written in 2nd person.
  • A few thoughts:
    • Sex in HIAYLM is SO positive. I’m not talking about all the circumstances in which sex went down. I’m talking about how it’s described and executed. I just want more sex positive books like this. Books that show sex realistically and not like fireworks or bolts of lightening.
      • Condoms. Buying condoms, using condoms, asking for condoms. Stoping sex to use condoms. Just yes.
      • Consent. Checking in making sure everything is OK. Asking. Saying it’s OK if sex doesn’t happen after hearing “yes” first. Asking. Did I mention asking?
      • Griffin discovers sex in porn and the media and everything we’ve been constructed to believe about sex is false. It happens at night (sex happens during all hours of the day). It hurts. Insecurity (am I doing this right). Learning together (what works, what doesn’t, what feels good, what doesn’t).
    • Fluidity in life is good and everyone is still discovering things about themselves.
    • Re: Wade liking men. Just because you think you know someone, you don’t know everything about them.
    • Seeing Theo kiss Griffin and also be an asshole (re: wanting Griffin to wait for him) was kind of nice because for a lot of the book we see him though Griffin’s eyes and it’s like he can do no wrong. In Cait’s review, on Goodreads, pointed out Theo is kind of like a manic pixie dream boy, which now that it’s been said out loud is exactly my thought.
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