• What a flipping hook!!! “I am finishing up dinner with my family and my finacé when my husband calls.” Like wow can you imagine being an agent and getting that as a hook?
  • “After Sam and I started dating, I noticed my laugh lines were getting deeper. This is most likely because I am growing older, but I can’t shake the feeling that it’s because I am laughing more than I ever have.” SHE’S SO FLIPPING HAPPY WITH HIM.
  • Oh my goooooooooosh Emma and Sam knew each other in high school no one told me thiiiiiis
  • Oh my goshhhh Emm and Jesse knew each other in high school tooooo?
  • THERE’S A BOOKSTORE IN THIS BOOK YESSSS
  • This book is going to be tragic and a new fav, I can tell.
  • When her friend is trying to figure out her sexuality she says “my only job was to be a friend to her” YES, this is the response everyone should have!
  • Wait, Jesse? Holding another girl’s hand? I thought he and Emma were supposed to get together!
  • SAM WoW Omgosh—HE CAME OUT OF THE BAND ROOM BECAUSE HE ALREADY RECOGNIZED HER VOICE. HE IS CRUSHING ON HER SO HARD THIS WILL BE THE END OF ME.
  • Sam is offering her a ride to their shift at the bookstore and he probably worked up so much nerve to offer that. I weep for his poor boyish self.
  • SAM’S SO AWKWARD OMGOSH.
  • Her not liking some of his music, but not knowing how to say it and just saying nothing is peak me lol.
  • Emma is SO relatable! “But I wasn’t [judging her]. I never did. I was far too worried everyone else was judging me.”
  • SAM DO NOT ASSUME JUST BECAUSE EMMA HESITATED SHE’S NOT INTERESTED GDI. She spent the next two years trying to get him to ask her out again T_T
  • *Enter Jesse again* I’d like to call a moment of silence for Sam’s chances with Emma please.
  • Oh wait, Jesse is a swimmer? It’s all starting to come together. Like Jesse was good at swimming so even though he was stranded in the Pacific Ocean he somehow managed to survive and either swim or tread water long enough to survive.
  • OK, but Emma and Jesse have a beautiful relationship. They are perfect for each other!!
  • “The last time I saw Jesse… It was the day before our anniversary” I weep for them it’s so sad T_T
  • Re-evaluating what you want after you get a little older is so relatable. I was so certain I wanted to live outside the US forever, but now that I’m in my mid-twenties, I know I really don’t want that anymore.
  • I seriously thought Jesse getting stranded in the Pacific Ocean was going to be a military thing, not a travel thing.
  • Grief montage is appropriately sobering and extremely emotional. I sob in tragedy.
  • THIS IS SO SAD AND EMOTIONAL I FEEL SO MUCH FOR EMMA. I JUST WANT HER TO BE HAPPY.
  • Okay but Sam pretending to be a sales associate and help customers at the music store when he doesn’t even work at the shop is so relatable. I do that at bookstores sometimes…
  • “‘Do you need lessons?’ Sam said. ‘If you wanted I could… teach you.’” THIS IS HER CHANCE TO SAY YES THE FIRST TIME NOW.
  • “Good things don’t wait until you’re ready. Sometimes they come right before, when you’re almost there.”
  • Chinos must have REALLY been in style back then because for Universe’s sake every time she describes clothing it’s Chinos this and Chinos that.
  • Every time Emma and Sam talk about Jesse and her relationship with him, I fall a little more in love with Sam as the LI because of how sensitive and considerate of her he is.
  • This is such a hard book to read. I mean how do you decide whether and when to “move on”. The term is so sad and callous and lonely, but if your partner disappeared without a trace, do you put your life on hold? And I think most loving partners would say “no” you can’t put your life on hold. Obviously, this is an extreme situation because Jesse actually survives and comes back. But there are so many people who have to make that decision after direct confirmation their loved one has passed away.
  • “‘Don’t stay with me if you want to be with him,’ he says. ‘Don’t do that to me’” SAMMMMMMMMMMM
  • Oh wow, so it’s been 3.5 years since Jesse disappeared?
  • I mean, also Jesse’s mom and family… How are they allowed to feel about Emma? I mean seeing your son’s partner move on has to be so painful for Jesse’s mom. But at the same time, I think she’s being pretty unfair to Emma.
  • EMMA WAS THE ONLY THING KEEPING JESSE GOING BUT SHE’S WITH SAM NOW I AM SO EMOTIONAL OVER EVERYTHING
  • “C’mon, Emma. You can have breakfast with me.” This is kind of a weird way for Jesse to try and persuade Emma to have breakfast with him… It’s kind of pushy and not super respectful of her boundaries.
  • SAM CAME DOWN AND MET HER AT THE BOTTOM OF THE BUILDING. I’m running out of ways to say “this is sad and tragic.”
  • “So often men see betrayal in what you’ve done instead of how you feel.”
  • “When it’s over” is such a weird phrase to use to say “they finished having sex.” It seems so… horrible? Like, for these two characters, physical affection is important and expresses a lot of unsaid feelings—but I dislike it when “over” is used in situations like this because it’s like so insensitive and… cold? Also please tell me Emma doesn’t get pregnant. WE DON’T NEED ANY MORE COMPLICATIONS.
  • “I find that this happens a lot with shocking things; it seems to hit you all at once even though you could have sworn it hit you all at once an hour ago.” TJR hitting us with that truth. Wow.
  • Jesse is going to find that letter that she wrote him about letting him go and it’s going to all hit the fan T_T
  • “But I gave up on that dream and went out and found a new one” TANGLED.
  • “I want to start writing again but I can’t find anything I want to write about. I’m not inspired. I’m just… well, bored.” Marie is a MOOD.
  • “I have been given the freedom to do that [explore her feelings with Jesse]. Sam did that for me.” *bursts into tears*
  • All these people suppressing their emotions for each other’s sakes is exhausting.
  • This is the second time Emma has been like “I need to go” and Jess is like “nooo stay with me.” And I’m not really about it…
  • “I hope you change your mind and realize that you love me and that we should be together for the rest of our lives, but… I’m not going to auction for the part.” KILL ME
  • Her sister Marie, wants details about everything that is going on. Oh darling it’s been JUICY. Actually not though. It’s just been tragic and sad (like I said I seriously had so many times where I was like this is so sad and tragic.)
  • I always wonder how people deal with situations like this where one person needs to talk about what happened but the other doesn’t want to relive it.
  • Jesse thinks they need to sleep together, and she agrees??? She’s always so cautious and sensible and with Jesse it’s like THROW ALL CAUTION TO THE WIND WE DON’T NEED THAT FLIPPING CAUTION.
  • No, it’s really not good to already been cherry-picking the truth with Jesse—with anyone you have a relationship with actually.
  • … … she’s telling Jesse to slow down while driving and so of course, he’s going to be pulled over by a cop…
  • Yup…
  • The cop called her “Ms. Blair” NOW JESSE KNOWS SHE CHANGED HER NAME BACK…………..
  • How is “calling it even” a solution for him getting pulled over and her changing her name back? Like those two actions aren’t equal in severity???
  • At the very very bare bones of this story, it’s about choosing what is right for you right now, in this moment and choosing between the past and the future—not between Jesse and Sam. This is really what Emma is choosing between.
  • “We are two people madly in love with our old selves. And that is not the same as being in love.” YES. THIS. I cry in tragedy.
  • “I’m walking toward books and my family and that one day in spring when the sun feels like it will shine for you forever and the flowers will bloom for months. I am walking toward vegan cheddar grilled cheese and cat GIFs and ‘Piano Man.’” I AM CRYING FOR SAM AND HER HAPPINESS YESSS
  • I’m honestly so glad she choose Sam. He is so sweet and adorable and so perfectly matched with the person she is right now.
  • 8/10—WOW. This was such an emotional roller coaster, and it definitely shows in the number of thoughts I had while reading it. It was just all sad in general, but also reading about her and Jesse and then her and Sam and then her having to choose between the two… It was just so full of emotions wow. Idk what to do. I think the beauty of this book is that it is so much about letting people be their true selves and so much of it is about being your true, authentic self. It has deep themes about self-acceptance and honestly, with a romance aspect added to it. I wouldn’t necessarily say it’s a straight romance. I would classify it in the same category as The Hating Game and Love and Other Words. It’s not a traditional romance, but it doesn’t exactly fit into the traditional fiction mold either.
    • The entire book can be summed up in this quote: “Every time you love, everyone you love, the love is different. You’re different in it.”