• Save me from the smell of Chao dou fu. I know so many people love it but it honestly just makes me gag. And no 老师 I don’t need to just “try it.”
  • This is starting to feel like YA Joy Luck Club and I. AM. HERE. FOR. IT.
  • TONE MARKS EVERYONE WE HAVE TONE MARKS ON THE PINYIN.
  • Even in my distant childhood memories, I still remember wishing I had blue eyes and blonde hair because it was pretty. Which it is, but East Asians are pretty too. But no child should be made to feel that way.
  • “Oh I’m a white boy and I’m interesting and cooler than you because I dated an EXOTIC Asian woman we had to do it in secret that’s how high risk it was.” Ya, no one is clapping for you sit down.
  • Stop. Her dance class is so precious I want to cry.
  • “One older woman openly cackled, taking full advantage of her revered elderly status.” LOOOLL, I had a friend who said when they were elderly they were going to just cut in line and no one would be able to do anything because they’re old.
  • I feel for Darren, I really do. He has literally nothing to do with what happened in WW2. But there’s nothing he can do.
  • I know their parents mean well, but they’re a little extreme in how they show love. I think if you are scared of your parents, no matter the culture, it’s not an altogether healthy relationship.
  • Oh my gosh, I feel so bad for Esther. I mean I also come from a culture in the US where you HAVE to have children. But it’s nothing this extreme. I swear I’ll never complain about people badgering me again.
  • STOP why are Mei and Darren so cute together??
  • “I haven’t seen inside yet.” Crying. Just crying. (160)
  • I love how her relationship with her roommate turns around and now they’re best friends.
  • Okay, so I was so engrossed in the book I didn’t take notes.
  • 8/10—I love the ending. It’s perfect. I love how she didn’t need Darren to find herself but that deciding she wanted him was part of finding herself, if that makes sense. It probably doesn’t, oh well.
    • I love how much her relationship with her mother evolves in just a few chapters. It really shows you how much a relationship can improve when you listen to each other. The situation with her dad is so sad, but cognitive dissonance is a real beast.
    • And her relationship with her brother is adorable. He is so pure and I love his and Esther’s relationship.
    • Also the discussion of the East Asian American experience here is TOP NOTCH like name a more iconic book. You can’t. Period. But hopefully not “the end.”
    • I know this hasn’t been published yet, but I really want another book about Mei’s second year.