- Looking at feminism though the lens of Adichie gives a unique, interesting perspective into Nigerian culture.
- “We say to girls, ‘You can have ambition, but not too much. You should aim to be successful, but not too successful, otherwise you will threaten the man. If you are the breadwinner in your relationship with a man, pretend that you are not, especially in public, otherwise you will emasculate him.’” (28). Just think how much more we, as humans, could accomplish if half the population doesn’t shrink themselves and reaches for their full potential. SO MUCH MORE.
- “The problem with gender is that is prescribes how we should be rather than recognizing how we are,” (34). Gender is a society created idea. Men can like sewing or cooking or cleaning or children. Women can like guns or want to be an officer in the army, or be CEOs.
- “Today, women in general are more likely to do house work than men – cooking and cleaning. But why is that? … I was going to say that perhaps women are born with a cooking gene until I remembered that the majority of famous cooks in the world – who are given the fancy title of ‘chef’ – are men.” (35).
And this is the frustrating thing I find. Even things women are supposedly innately better at than men— cooking, fashion, children etc.—men are still praised as the top chefs, designers, research in childhood development. Men who succeed at society deemed feminine activities are “outstanding” or “a breathe of fresh air,” where as women who succeed at the same activities are considered “stereotypical” or “average.” This is similar for activities society has named masculine activities, but with a catch. Women who succeed at “masculine activities” are called “lucky” and men who succeed are called “successful, aggressive go-getters.” Are the women who succeed at these activities not also “successful, aggressive go-getters”? When you search your soul, you will know the answer to be a resounding “yes”.
- Why are men considered “natural leaders”? Our own unconscious bias tells us it’s because men are “natural leaders” and superior. But in reality, it’s easy to see how many unconscious biases come together and create the “truth” from thinking a long time that something is right. Men are not natural leaders. Some people are natural leaders. But being a man doesn’t automatically mean you will be a good leader. Good leaders are made, not born.
- OK, Re: changing diapers: NY Times created this:
The New York Times (@nytimes) March 24, 2016
When it came out, I saw someone quoted the tweet with something like, “As if there’s any acceptable answer other than YES to the second question.” I don’t subscribe to the idea that only the man/woman changes diapers, feeds the baby, puts kids to bed, or does anything exclusively. It’s a partnership. So it makes sense to share the responsibilities.
- PAGE 41 JUST EVERYTHING ON PAGE 41. READ IT, ABSORB IT, LOVE IT!!! Re: why not call it “humanism” or “human rights”: “For centuries, the world divided human beings into two groups and then proceeded to exclude and oppress one group. It is only fair that the solution to the problem should acknowledge that.”
- “My own definition of a feminist is a man or a woman who says, ‘Yes, there’s a problem with gender as it is today and we must fix it, we must do better'”
- 9/10—I mean, I knew I would like this but I can’t even describe. The world Adichie aspires to is the world I hope we all see one day. And if we all do our part, one day we will.